Don't get me wrong, I love knowing that the trash is being taken out and her laundry is being done weekly. I love knowing that she doesn't have to cook or clean up after cooking. I love how beautiful the room is and how perfect the color purple they painted the room is for her. I love that she's getting her medications regularly and at the preferred times.
It's just not right for her.
Mom needs someone who can turn on the shower for her so she can just walk in. Mom needs someone who can let her know her shirt is on inside out and help her fix it without making her feel like she's stupid. She needs someone who can help remind her that she doesn't have to wear clothes to bed and help her get her nightgown on. She needs someone to pull down her comforter and sheet so she sleeps in the bed instead of on it. She also needs to feel like she's still in her 60s which is not happening at all at the ALF.
Don't get me wrong, the people are all lovely. They're just old. She's old too, but not that old.
So here we are at another crossroads for Mom.
Luckily the couple that rented out her apartment decided to go elsewhere. The complex is going to clean up her carpet and figure out what's going on with the fleas. She's been out for weeks. No one is there. There should be no reason we're still finding some. They're going to check out the vents to make sure nothing is living in them. Hopefully removing or seriously cleaning the carpet will help as well. I do know that I'm not moving her back in in the condition it's in.
You might be wondering why I'm even considering moving her back there in the first place after all the trouble we went through with fleas and cleaning it out. The thing is, with Alzheimer's, keeping things the same is super important. She knows that place. She has friends there. She has friends that know me and my number and wont hesitate to let me know if something is going on. She loved taking walks around the complex and I had no concerns of her getting lost.
The plan for now is to hire someone to help out for a couple hours in the morning and in the evenings. They can help with meds, make meals for her, do some light housekeeping and laundry and help her get dressed. I met an incredible lady yesterday who is going to help Mom out in the mornings and she found someone she likes and trusts to help in the evenings. I'll hopefully be meeting her soon. Denise (AM helper) even said she wanted to come over Thursday and help me scrub the place down so we can be ready for them to take care of the carpet once her couch is removed. I'm kinda in love with this woman.
That's all for now. I'm sick and the baby wants to help me type. Wish me luck.
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